Killing a Toddler over Insecurities and Obsession?!

A father made the decision to kill his 19 month old daughter and turn the gun on himself, because he could not be with the mother.  Apparently the relationship was at a boiling point that had left the mother wanting to leave for both her daughter’s safety as well as her own safety.  What goes on in the mind of a man who wants to cause harm on a woman that is fed up and wants to leave?  Who has to pay the price?  Why was murder and suicide the only solution?  What could have been done to prevent this?  We can only ask questions and speculate, but what is “right”?  How about the timing to leave?

Many people do not realize that relationships are not the perfect picture painted in the movies and books.  Just as friendships and employment, there are ups and downs.  It’s how we comprehend and work with what we have.  Unfortunately, McKoy has chosen to inflict death to the precious daughter of the woman he could no longer harm.  I’m not trying to say what he did was right, but the majority of his mentality was likely developed over time and through his upbringing and culture.  Prevention is not as easy as many people think. 

You can call the police, file a VPO (victim protection order), and end the relationship.  But, depending on the mentality of the perpetrator, he could likely come after the victim with no concern to having been warned by the law.  It becomes a matter of “tunnel vision”.  He knows what he wants, and if he is told he can’t have it, he will do whatever it takes to obtain it.  That includes unlawful acts.  My heart goes out to Phanthavongsa.  

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/man-details-daugther-murder-facebook-article-1.1521656

{At the time of this article the father was taken to a hospital in critical condition.  He is now pronounced dead.}